You Are More

Sometimes, life can be downright unfair.

But “unfair” is an overused word when talking about this. So alternatives could be prejudiced, one-sided, biased, cruel, discriminatory, unwarranted, unjust, unethical, unreasonable, unjustifiable, and shameful.

Evidence of this can be found all around us, in the fact that alcohol causes hangovers, pizza is unhealthy, and that the most beautiful people on the face of this Earth are so wrought with insecurities that they are unable to see their true worth.

A lifetime of rejection, exclusion, insults, being made to feel like they’re worthless just for having the courage to show a part of who they are to an unrelenting society has made them believe that there is something irreparably wrong with them. That they’ll never get the happiness they’re entitled to. That they will never accomplish their goals or reach the dreams they work so damn hard for.

And this brings me to the point of this. I'm here to tell you, yes, you reading this, whoever you are, wherever you may be, however good or bad your life may be, that you are worth more than you think you are. You are worth more than your race, gender, sexuality, body type, religion, your hobbies, your taste in music and movies, what car you drive and what clothes you wear. You are more than the problems in your life. You are more than your past choices, mistakes, and failures.

You are worth more than what you've been lead to believe. You are worth more than society may make you out to be. You are worth more than your family, friends, acquaintances, and lecturers may say you are. You deserve all the happiness, love, appreciation, and respect you give to, and wish for, everyone around you.

You deserve to reach your dreams, you deserve to do what brings you joy, whether it’s designing clothes for Beyoncé, directing Taylor Swift’s new music video, or working at Mc Donald’s. You are worth it. You deserve your dreams, you deserve to be with that person you think about at night, you are deserve to be loved, and you deserve to be alive. You are more important than you realise.

And most importantly, you are beautiful. You are earth-shatteringly, astoundingly, breathtakingly, bewilderingly, stupefyingly, overwhelmingly, wondrously, stunningly beautiful. Not only on the outside, but on the inside as well. Your soul has the ability to blind the world with its depth, beauty, and bring a new light to a society that so desperately needs more people like you.

I know you’re thinking that I don’t know you, that I couldn't possibly fathom how much of a failure you are, how disgusting you are, how you've done something so unforgivable that none of this applies to you. But you’re wrong. Whether you believe me or not, it’s true. And I can only hope that one day you realise this, that one day you find the love you deserve, that you find the happiness you so deserve.

So don’t give up. Don’t spend so many sleepless nights pondering all your failures. Don’t look for your happiness at the bottom of so many bottles, between the sheets of someone you've just met, or in the cheap, false euphoria of a drug, even though the appeal of these things cannot be overlooked. Believe that you are capable of being the person you want to be.

I know this probably won’t change anything, but I wanted you to hear (read) this at least once today. And I hope that one day you will believe me when I tell you these things.

Your life will not go unnoticed. I will notice you. I will be your witness. 

Skies on Fire

Grahamstown skies have been doing some pretty cool things lately. The kind of cool things that deserve their own Instagram account. Here are a few of the best sunset shots, taken from my bedroom window. The way things have been going, I'm sure there will be more to follow.

All Dressed Up and Nowhere To Take a Selfie (Part 2)

If you’re not careful, this life will destroy you.

Hell, even if you are careful, it will still destroy you. It will destroy your self-esteem, your sense of self-worth, your self-image, and everything else that has the word “self” in it. It may even destroy everything you use to define yourself, effectively reducing you a broken, dribbling mess, a mindless shell of the person you should have been (a depressing start I know, but bear with me and it will get better. Maybe).

I know this isn't an original point, and that there are countless other, and probably better written, blog posts out there with truly inspiring messages about how you shouldn't always focus on the negatives, how you shouldn't let other’s opinions influence you, how you shouldn't compare yourself to others, etc. And that’s true. However, much like this exact post, those posts/messages/quotes don’t actually stop people from doing those things. And nowhere is this more obvious than in the deep, dark, wretched abyss that is social media.

When our lives basically consist out of content marketing campaigns for social media, it becomes impossible to live free. Our news feeds get flooded with posts of people who seem to ‘like’ (yet never actually love) their lives. We get lost in photos of people’s parties, holidays, adventures, and status updates about lost love, but new-found wisdom, and we wish that our lives could be as cool as those of our friends on Facebook.

Our lives become restricted by the frame of an Instagram photo, and by the 140 character limit of a Tweet, and we start to feel inferior and unimportant if we don’t have countless photos of our own lives and achievements plastered all over the Internet. We start to feel like we’ll never be as cool as everyone with 600+ photos in the “2015 – The Good Times” (or “lul GuD TymEZ”) albums, as pretty as the people who always have really beautiful selfies, as popular as the people with over 800 “friends”, or even just as generally happy as everyone else seems to be (although some comment boards may leave you feeling slightly more intelligent, but also fearing for the future of humanity. So pros and cons).

It consumes our lives, and leaves us thinking that “if it isn't online, it never actually happened”. We’re even conditioned to believe that our lives are terrible and worthless because we aren't tagged in a fresh batch of photos every Thursday, Saturday, and Sunday morning, documenting the previous evening’s shenanigans while you sit alone in your room, all dressed up and nowhere to take a selfie. Even if it’s not a conscious occurrence, it’s still a belief that I know sweeps through your mind as surely as it does mine.

We start comparing our lives to the false realities of what we see on the Internet, not only those of our friends, but also those of the pages we follow. We also start comparing ourselves to the posed, heavily Photoshopped photos we’re bombarded with on a daily basis, and we start thinking, and eventually believing, that we’ll never be able to accomplish anything close to what the people online have done. We believe that we’ll never be able to make anything of ourselves, and we genuinely believe that we may as well stop trying, because everything we attempt will fail.

However, the lives of all those bright, shiny people might not be living as easy as they appear to be, because the people with 1 056 friends and 5 674 tagged photos are filled with just as much self-doubt and loneliness as those with 384 friends. Maybe even more. It truly is a vicious cycle we subject ourselves to. This makes me (and probably only me) wonder: are we not more than this? Has human nature sunk so low that we value our lives based on what others will see on our Timelines? Are we really allowing ourselves to be destroyed by a society where cats get more appreciation than those who are actively trying to make a difference in the world? Is 1984 becoming a documentary instead of a warning? Can an octopus see colour? Does a hedgehog know how adorable it is? Was Gravity really that good? But I digress. (This is almost finished, I promise)

We have become filled with the crippling self-doubt that humanity seems to impose on its populace nowadays. When taking all of the above into consideration, it becomes significantly less surprising that levels of anxiety and depression are on the rise. And I know this post isn't going to change anything. I just wrote it that it may raise this single thought in your mind: Are you going to let the social media life destroy you, or are you going to rise above the squalor and live a life free of social pressure?

I really hope so. But probably not. But one can always dream. And on that note, I release you. Be free. And if you've actually made it this far, well done. You must have been really, really bored to read that dribble.

Now I'm off to have a drink and take a selfie in a club bathroom. 

Design Things

I like to pretend I'm good at using things like Photoshop and InDesign, when really I have no idea what I'm doing. I usually end up with up to 60 layers for one image, about 15 errors on a page, and and jumping up and down like a moron when I do something resembling what the smart person in the tutorial has done.

The following images are the results of much swearing, hours of face-melting frustration, hand cramps and copious amounts of caffeine consumption. Hopefully they aren't too much of an insult to the senses.

A project for the actual course.

Alternate design

Something extra-curricular.

Left Alone

I was going to provide a detailed context, then I realised that you probably don't care, and I couldn't be bothered to type out the story.

She says he's going straight to nowhere
He should buy a ticket home
She's a straight line in a sharp bend
And he's an ending on her road
He's got no time to be a frontman
Tie his shoes or wear his clothes
She'll find a way to twist his fingers
He'll find a way to break her bones
And he's a doctor
He says he's certified
But she knows that is wrong
When she just looks into his eyes
He'll mend her heartbreak
She says that he has the cure
But that medicine don't kick in
Like it used to any more

But God loves a trier
And the devil loves a sin
And I guess he'll be a liar
And she'll take it on the chin

He's left alone
And he doesn't know
She's in control
And he sees her ghost
Every time he looks into her eyes
And what he knows is wrong
Is what she'll say is right

He knows she means it
When she says "I love you" back
She knows just how to tease him
Keep him happy, it's an act
And in the arms of all mistakes
Comes the collision of a word
From the fragile sense of "sorry"
To the promise he misheard

But God loves a trier
And the devil loves a sin
And I guess she'll be a liar
And he'll take it on the chin

He's left alone
And he doesn't know
She's in control
And he sees her ghost
Every time he looks into her eyes
And what he knows is wrong
Is what she'll say is right

But God loves a trier
And the devil loves a sin
And I guess I'll be a liar
And I'll take it on the chin

Traits of the Heartbroken

Imagine if everyone that’s ever had their heart broken had to walk around with some kind of permanent public mark. Like a little flashing light above their heads, or something, a bit like in The Sims, which is really weird, but just stick with me. So, you could be walking the busiest streets of the busiest cities, which can weirdly be the loneliest places, and you could be feeling broken through and through because someone bashed on this vital organ of yours, and it all came crashing down.

But you would see all these strangers walking passed with their little flashing lights, and suddenly you wouldn't feel as sad or alone any more. And they wouldn't need to give you a sympathetic nod when you pass, but just the fact that they are out there in the world, walking around and getting on with it, whether they had their heart broken last week or 20 years ago, would be encouraging. Because they lived through it. And they went to school or work, they ate their dinner, visited their grandmother, and got on with it. And I'm sure some days are better than others, and they probably cried on the phone to their friend, they probably wolfed through gallons of ice-cream or alcohol, but they got through it. And now, they’d walk the streets as living proof that the heartbreak didn't win.

I'm sure that there are people out there who live their entire lives without being heartbroken once. Some of those people are just really lucky. But some of them, and I don’t envy anyone for this, some of them just aren't risk takers. And it’s so easy when your emotions take a hit to just be really cynical and hard, and to retreat into a place where you just hate everyone because you feel invincible that way. But if you don’t take risks, you’ll never reap the benefits from the risks that turn out to be worth it.

Heartbreak isn't enviable. Though, what I think are enviable are the typical character traits of the heartbroken. Because we’re the optimists. We’re the romantics, the thinkers, the dreamers, the risk takers, we’re the idealists. We just awarded our trust to the wrong person. But at least we had trust to give. All those traits, no matter how many times I get my heart broken, they’re not traits I'm willing to lose. 

Broken Boards, Rashes & Entry Fees

South African surfing has come a long way in recent years. Every year more and more South Africans are qualifying for places on the elite World Championship Tour (WCT), and those vying for places on the WCT are blowing up the World Qualifying Series (WQS) with progressive turns, and aerial and barrel riding manoeuvres. Last year, the International Surfing Association (ISA) World Surfing Games saw a plucky Mossel Bay local named Shaun Joubert dominate the Panamanian waves and win South Africa the gold medal. Even the perfect right hand point that is Jeffery’s Bay is once again being featured as a stop on the WCT. Despite these leaps forward, there are, however, still some major drawbacks for aspiring surfers in this country.

Professional surfing is not all sunshine and perfect barrels. There are some major financial drawbacks that come with the decision to turn a passion into a life-long career. For example, when team SA went to Panama for the ISA World Surfing Games last year, they had no financial support from the South African Sports Confederation and Olympic Committee (SASCOC). This meant that a national team of athletes representing this wonderful country had to pay for everything out of their own pockets. These expenses included entry and travel fees, along with accommodation and all the other necessities one needs while executing massive carves on the rippable waves of Santa Catalina that put other teams to shame. These expenses were so high that Dale Staples, an original pick who was second in the world during his stint in the junior circuit, had to reject his place on the team.

This problem of funding is not limited to national participation. Several South African surfers such as Staples, Beyrick de Vries, Michael February, David van Zyl, Faye Zoetmulder, and even big wave legend Grant “Twig” Baker, have to be selective about which events they choose to enter around the world. Contrary to popular belief, sponsors do not pay for plane tickets, accommodation, entry fees or the emotional scarring caused by being dropped in on or a bad rash from a new wetsuit. They only pay for new boards, wetsuits and other merchandise.

This selective style of competing can result in a vicious cycle, not unlike being caught in the impact zone. If a surfer misses an event, they risk a huge drop in the world rankings as everyone around them climbs, and this can lead to surfers losing places in higher rated events, and can eventually lead to a loss of sponsors and a dream that has gone from a perfect glassy 10-foot Pipeline barrel to two-foot onshore slop in Muizenberg.

This lack of funding is certainly not a new problem to South African surfers. Even the mighty Shaun Tompson slept on a thin piece of foam while he was leading the charge and revolutionising the sport of surfing forever on the North Shore of Hawaii in 1975 (watch the documentary "Bustin' Down the Door" for more on this, it's mindblowingly amazing). Even he had to scrape money together to compete in events, both locally and internationally, although professional events during that period were few and far between.

One theory about this severe lack of funding is the stigma of a dreadlocked, laid-back, anti-society, weed-smoking, slacker way of life that still surrounds surfers today. This was certainly the case during Tompson’s time, but during his reign as a top South African surfer, he and a few other Australian pioneers systematically shattered that stigma by proving that surfing can be a legitimate professional sport. Local and international icons like Jordy Smith, Joel Parkinson, Kelly Slater and Travis Logie have been part of a professional movement that has furthered the progress, with Slater’s career winnings exceeding $3 million. 

While there is some funding to South African surfers, the large majority are left scraping together some coins for a plane ticket in hopes of furthering their dreams, even if it means sleeping on the beach in their boardbags. The dedication of these few brave souls is exactly what the sport needs, and this begs the question, what if the next Shaun Tompson, Kelly Slater or Bianca Buitendag is sitting at home, or more likely at work, watching their surfing brethren rip on the world’s best waves in a webcast on a small computer screen sitting in an uncomfortable office chair, all because they couldn't afford an entry fee?